My name is Ted Friedman, and I am a licensed clinical social worker in the State of California. I have a private practice in La Mesa where I see individuals, couples, and, families.  Over the years I have treated many men with problem anger, and, I have done a great deal of personal work to deal with my own anger issues.  I want to share a little of my story, or at least enough of it to let you know that I have been there myself.  I was angry, hurt, resentful and fearful when I started.  I was in therapy and recovering from drug and alcohol issues. I had quit the drugs and the booze, but, found what was left was this anger. It really took all my strength to confront this in myself and I got some really good help along the way.  I remember 15 years ago I would go to my therapist every week and yell at the poor guy.  Everything was everyone else’s fault.  It was my mom, my ex, the government, all the stupid people, and, on and on.  One day my therapist said something I will always remember.  He said, “it seems like the common denominator in all these situations is you.”  Man, that made me mad.  How could he not see how stupid everyone was.  I was steamed, but, I needed him.  I had been court ordered to anger treatment and I wanted him to sign this off for me.  I thought about it and thought about it and then finally it dawned on me, “hey!  I can change me.”  Sounds kind of silly now, but at the time this was like a light bulb going off.  Seriously, like a brain zap.  It was like I had a key. I could work on me.  I began to open up to him.  I began the process of grieving what I had lost, and, I began to be my own best friend.  I really had none at the time.  To be honest, it was the strength, patience, honesty and kindness of this man that inspired me.  Certainly, there has been much more work for me over the years on my anger, and, to share it all here would take some time.  I still keep up a daily practice of meditation, and, yeah I get angry sometimes, but these times are fewer and farther between, and much less intense.  My purpose in making this site and offering this program is very simply that I want to pass this along.  I feel I am good at it, I feel I can help, I feel it is a gift I can give, a skill I have developed, my craft so to speak, and it means a great deal to me to help men with their anger in a way that is compassionate, empathetic, effective and empowering.  If you find yourself on this site and are looking for some straight talk, and real help, I hope you will consider making the call and reaching out.